shallow hearts fall lightly
with each calm step...
steps bearing down,
through moraless virtue..
bleeding through music
bleeding through time...
the way to bleed emotion
and a world of crime
Copyright ©2005 C J. Gebelin
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
It Isn’t as easy as, 1 2 3 This is who I want to Be
At least not for Everbody!
What’s KAGOY? Kids Getting Older Younger phenomenon.
This generation of teens is the Y Gen. For you teens out there that don’t know it yet it’s you. You guys are the most powerful, strongest of generations ever to date. Why?
Your parents, the generation before you have given you no choice.
Divorces, one-parent incomes, technology as in television and personal computers, pop culture, parenting style (or lack there of), all have affected you.
The planet itself is in trouble and you know that more than the generation that began its destruction before you, more than they ever had a clue. There’s work ahead for you, already depending on you guys to do good things to make changes of the social climate and planet.
It’s your right to be happy and live your life with a smile right now though!
But I know.. Why are there so many parents that want an answer from you right now on the choice you are going to make about your future work and career!
I think they worry about your future and happiness, but just forget to get to know you better before making demands. But some of us just don’t know yet? Ugh...it isn’t that easy for everybody and you might just have to show them that, and they might just have to respect that.
Maybe using this little suggestion today can be the thing you use to show them that it isn’t as easy as 1 2 3 This is who I want to be.
Enjoy being a teen while you are one!
In 2015 the bulk of Generation Y, your Gen, will be 25 years old.
Here’s a simple run down to help you be ahead on this work thing:
Work, should not be work. Work, should be the thing you find in life that you really love and have fun doing. There’s a chain reaction in that: ~ You love what you do = you go to work feeling like you’re not at work.
~ Not feeling like you’re working at work = Low stress
~ Low stress = makes you happy when you’re not at work
~ The more you love and feel something = you will be the best at it
~ When you’re good at it – you get paid the bigger bucks
You may not find what you want to do during high school, you may not find it right after either. But that’s okay? Everyone is different with that, and also have different things going on with their family at home that might interfere with the resources you have to check into it.
If you want to start getting an idea for what you might love to do for work some day, for your real income, there Is an easy way to find out!
School career counselors are one thing, and some just don’t offer a ‘career check connections’ program. But there is a bottom line reality way to do this.
Simply go to a place where someone is doing this work already, find out the name of someone that works there.
Or you could email him or her if you get their email address. You could call them also. Then contact them and tell them you would like to have a talk with them in person, and ask them some questions. You might even find out you get along with that person and they like you and might let you come sit in for a few hours on the job. They might show you some hard knocks and some rewards. The main thing is that you get to see the work on the inside, at a distance from your own views.
If you write down a list of questions and take it with you it will make it even better so you can compare details of other visits on other job sites once you’re at home thinking about this.
*Questions to ask the person:
How much college did it take?
Do you love what you do?
Do you make enough money to make you happy?
Do you ever get stressed at work and what things are stressful?
*Questions you can ask yourself:
What did I like that I saw on my visit?
What did I find out that I didn’t expect, that surprised me?
What kind of lifestyle do I want to live and will this fit in?
Will the job requirements and hour structure give me the freedom do the things I want to do outside of work?
Will I make the income level I see myself making as an adult?
I hope this little blog today will help give some of you in need, some ammo to be a few steps ahead so you can live your life at home less stressful.
What’s KAGOY? Kids Getting Older Younger phenomenon.
This generation of teens is the Y Gen. For you teens out there that don’t know it yet it’s you. You guys are the most powerful, strongest of generations ever to date. Why?
Your parents, the generation before you have given you no choice.
Divorces, one-parent incomes, technology as in television and personal computers, pop culture, parenting style (or lack there of), all have affected you.
The planet itself is in trouble and you know that more than the generation that began its destruction before you, more than they ever had a clue. There’s work ahead for you, already depending on you guys to do good things to make changes of the social climate and planet.
It’s your right to be happy and live your life with a smile right now though!
But I know.. Why are there so many parents that want an answer from you right now on the choice you are going to make about your future work and career!
I think they worry about your future and happiness, but just forget to get to know you better before making demands. But some of us just don’t know yet? Ugh...it isn’t that easy for everybody and you might just have to show them that, and they might just have to respect that.
Maybe using this little suggestion today can be the thing you use to show them that it isn’t as easy as 1 2 3 This is who I want to be.
Enjoy being a teen while you are one!
In 2015 the bulk of Generation Y, your Gen, will be 25 years old.
Here’s a simple run down to help you be ahead on this work thing:
Work, should not be work. Work, should be the thing you find in life that you really love and have fun doing. There’s a chain reaction in that: ~ You love what you do = you go to work feeling like you’re not at work.
~ Not feeling like you’re working at work = Low stress
~ Low stress = makes you happy when you’re not at work
~ The more you love and feel something = you will be the best at it
~ When you’re good at it – you get paid the bigger bucks
You may not find what you want to do during high school, you may not find it right after either. But that’s okay? Everyone is different with that, and also have different things going on with their family at home that might interfere with the resources you have to check into it.
If you want to start getting an idea for what you might love to do for work some day, for your real income, there Is an easy way to find out!
School career counselors are one thing, and some just don’t offer a ‘career check connections’ program. But there is a bottom line reality way to do this.
Simply go to a place where someone is doing this work already, find out the name of someone that works there.
Or you could email him or her if you get their email address. You could call them also. Then contact them and tell them you would like to have a talk with them in person, and ask them some questions. You might even find out you get along with that person and they like you and might let you come sit in for a few hours on the job. They might show you some hard knocks and some rewards. The main thing is that you get to see the work on the inside, at a distance from your own views.
If you write down a list of questions and take it with you it will make it even better so you can compare details of other visits on other job sites once you’re at home thinking about this.
*Questions to ask the person:
How much college did it take?
Do you love what you do?
Do you make enough money to make you happy?
Do you ever get stressed at work and what things are stressful?
*Questions you can ask yourself:
What did I like that I saw on my visit?
What did I find out that I didn’t expect, that surprised me?
What kind of lifestyle do I want to live and will this fit in?
Will the job requirements and hour structure give me the freedom do the things I want to do outside of work?
Will I make the income level I see myself making as an adult?
I hope this little blog today will help give some of you in need, some ammo to be a few steps ahead so you can live your life at home less stressful.
Monday, January 29, 2007
Parents Stealing Your Life With Their addiction
Hurting over a parents addiction? Addiction can be alcohol, drugs, medications, money, people, work, drama..many things. And they all have the same powerful affect on the kids that have to live with it at home, and the side affects it brings into the house. These addicted parents living in denial and self-destruction, don't seem to notice that their kids can't deny it and see it all too clear.
Having to watch a parent addicted, having to witness all the negative side affects, yelling, no communicating, no reasoning, can rip a teen apart. This always angers and breaks my heart, and just this week alone, again, I'm running across several teens in this nightmare.
Watching a parent in self-destruct mode is daily torment. Teens get to see it and watch it at a distance, clearly, between being drug in and out of the turmoil it wreaks. I see them in tears..
of fear for their parents safety, health and happiness (yes they love them and worry), of fear of consequences if they try to intervene and make change happen, in fear even of their own emerging temptations to want to use the same self-destructive products to ease their increasing depression and pain. Guess what? So far most have told me they already have started, when the parents leave them alone.
They are scared, at a wits end, and feel like theres a big brick wall they hit and can't do anything else but ease the pain.
It's not a teens fault, and it's not a teens responsibility to have to fix the problem. So why are they left alone to do that? These 'busy' with addiction parents leave their teens all alone to figure this one out, and cause them to suffer the BS that comes with it. Is It Not enough that so many parents forget they have to show the road to a happy fulfilling life, and what joy and laughter are by Being an example? Alot of parents that don't have addiction problems forget that one as it is. I wonder how many teens never even made it to the point of 'trying' to help change the family problem before their own lives were bent too soon. Not fair, not right, and it might as well be dismemberment.
~Hugs~ For you teens out there that are living in this hell, you Are better than this.
You can rise from these hell ashes and know what its like to laugh, and talk, and be heard, and enjoy waking up and going to sleep every day. It's your right to know what living really is, and too keep living!
If you are a parent in denial, have a problem with addiction, wake up! Your teens know, trust me. You're killing them inside and out.
Having to watch a parent addicted, having to witness all the negative side affects, yelling, no communicating, no reasoning, can rip a teen apart. This always angers and breaks my heart, and just this week alone, again, I'm running across several teens in this nightmare.
Watching a parent in self-destruct mode is daily torment. Teens get to see it and watch it at a distance, clearly, between being drug in and out of the turmoil it wreaks. I see them in tears..
of fear for their parents safety, health and happiness (yes they love them and worry), of fear of consequences if they try to intervene and make change happen, in fear even of their own emerging temptations to want to use the same self-destructive products to ease their increasing depression and pain. Guess what? So far most have told me they already have started, when the parents leave them alone.
They are scared, at a wits end, and feel like theres a big brick wall they hit and can't do anything else but ease the pain.
It's not a teens fault, and it's not a teens responsibility to have to fix the problem. So why are they left alone to do that? These 'busy' with addiction parents leave their teens all alone to figure this one out, and cause them to suffer the BS that comes with it. Is It Not enough that so many parents forget they have to show the road to a happy fulfilling life, and what joy and laughter are by Being an example? Alot of parents that don't have addiction problems forget that one as it is. I wonder how many teens never even made it to the point of 'trying' to help change the family problem before their own lives were bent too soon. Not fair, not right, and it might as well be dismemberment.
~Hugs~ For you teens out there that are living in this hell, you Are better than this.
You can rise from these hell ashes and know what its like to laugh, and talk, and be heard, and enjoy waking up and going to sleep every day. It's your right to know what living really is, and too keep living!
If you are a parent in denial, have a problem with addiction, wake up! Your teens know, trust me. You're killing them inside and out.
Sunday, January 28, 2007
Only For Teens
Today is the first day of the opening for the blog site. I wanted to make it special. So I sat here for a while and thinking of all the teens out there with problems with their parents. Thinking about why this handbook came flowing through me like a gift. Thinking about how left alone so many of us feel even after we make it out of the house. Successful, maybe.. but do we ever reconcile what we ever needed from our parents? Living at home still, is when we need to find ways to get parents to accept and work with us. Otherwise, later in years, even when we do have the life of fulfillment in work, friends, and living life to its best, there may always be something missing.A void. Something like an irritating emotion that just never was cured early enough.One that you have to always find a way to deal with.
After thinking about that, and speaking to so many teens, and young adults, my heart hurt deeply. So with all of you in mind, this poem came to me. I think it's only right I place it here on the first opening day of the handbooks blog site. Maybe some of you will relate to it and understand it's meaning. Life is good, have a great day and thank for coming by.
After thinking about that, and speaking to so many teens, and young adults, my heart hurt deeply. So with all of you in mind, this poem came to me. I think it's only right I place it here on the first opening day of the handbooks blog site. Maybe some of you will relate to it and understand it's meaning. Life is good, have a great day and thank for coming by.
There Was A Dragon
He left his home, they said don't come around here no more.
What did he do with that? What could he do anymore?
He spread his wings..those wings must've changed.. a million colors..
on that first flight in vain.
But in the end, it was the flight to begin,
his bright new life ahead that waited for him..
Little did he know then, but he sure knew Now,
when all of his kin, wanted to come to him and bow.
What did he do with that? What could he do anymore?
He hugged his wing's about them, waved a tail, snorted a flame,
he watched them gaze at him in wonder,
as he lifted his huge shining wings,
smiling down from the sky,
his eyes telling them,
I'll try to drop by...
when you understand, love and accept me.
C J Gebelin ©2007
He left his home, they said don't come around here no more.
What did he do with that? What could he do anymore?
He spread his wings..those wings must've changed.. a million colors..
on that first flight in vain.
But in the end, it was the flight to begin,
his bright new life ahead that waited for him..
Little did he know then, but he sure knew Now,
when all of his kin, wanted to come to him and bow.
What did he do with that? What could he do anymore?
He hugged his wing's about them, waved a tail, snorted a flame,
he watched them gaze at him in wonder,
as he lifted his huge shining wings,
smiling down from the sky,
his eyes telling them,
I'll try to drop by...
when you understand, love and accept me.
C J Gebelin ©2007
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