Only We know what We Feel

All too often, all around us we socialize with or know people that seem to think they know how we feel. Parent/s are very good at this. Telling us things about ourselves, that actually don’t fit in with what’s going on inside our heart and head at all.

A boyfriend tells his girlfriend, “I know you don’t like me anymore” when maybe the girlfriend does and has another problem.
A parent might tell you, “I know you hate me”, when in fact you have entirely different feelings about them.

It can be frustrating. Making it worse, these people don’t seem to want to ‘hear’ what you are really feeling. In cases where you just don’t know what you are feeling they also don’t seem to want to hear when you explain to them that you don’t.

Sometimes I’ve had others tell me what I’m feeling. It’s obvious to me right away they are in their own mind set and not even interested in asking me how I feel about the matter.
So right away, I gather my calm, and do the only thing one can do in that moment;

Look them in their eyes, and say, ”You are not inside of me, you can’t know what I’m feeling, you aren’t even asking or interested in hearing what I feel.”

And Sometimes, We don’t even know what we feel exactly. Thats the nature of being human when confusion sets in at times.
That’s when it really sucks to be told by someone what you’re feeling.
All one can do in that case is simply say, ”I don’t even know how I feel exactly, how can you know?

I guess what this all comes down to is one thing,
Only We can Know what we are truly feeling inside and no one else.

Only We Our Self are in our head and heart, and no two people are ever exactly the same.
Respect that, and life will be better and happier for so many more people, most of all yourself.
It’s so important to listen and observe those around you.
If you ever catch yourself telling someone how they feel, you may just want to stop, and listen to what they say they feel.

Using the Art Of Observation can be pretty amazing.